It’s time to let them die.
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

...I told him not to take my Rolos...

...I told him not to take my Rolos...

Hello mates! How are ya?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

One of the toughest aspects of dealing with a life and death situation are the people you might be obligated to help….

 

 

 

We are not including Emergency Responders, or Doctors who have undertaken the Hippocratic Oath to save lives as part of their job. If you happen to have one of these folks on hand when your life hangs in the balance, then you are likely extremely fortunate. Or are you??

I’d like you to read this account of a man, dying, that waited two days for emergency medical help:  http://www.thetartan.org/2010/2/22/forum/ems

 

Now, as always, you can’t believe just the bits that were printed for maximum effect. There’s probably a good reason why the paramedics wouldn’t leave the safety of their vehicle and walk the distance to this man’s house.

Maybe there are rules governing their just leaving an emergency vehicle stocked with medical supplies, (drugs) while they go off, dragging the patient trolley behind them to the patient.

Or maybe they were in a rough area and didn’t want to risk being shot and robbed.

Or maybe, it was just too cold for them to get out knowing that this “emergency” had already been graded as a low level life threatening illness.

 http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20100228/ap_on_re_us/us_snow911_death

It’s possibe that Emergency Services had responded to this home numerous times before and had yet to encounter a true medical emergency. It would be hard not to discount this instance given the previous history.

 

On a couple of occasions the victim cancelled the calls when dispatch relayed the difficulties of getting the ambulance to the victims home, and then requested that he walk a block to meet the Emergency vehicle where they were stuck in the snow.

It's all fun and games until someone gets stuck....

It's all fun and games until someone gets stuck....

 

I know I’m playing Devil’s advocate, but I’m doing so for a reason.

 

Being in a true emergency life or death event will test the toughest amongst us. It tends to bring out the best and worst in people and does so in a hurry.

Most become angered at the position they are in. They begin cursing and lashing out those around them as if they were responsible for the situation.

Including gross negligence, blaming others during the actual crisis does little to mitigate the immediate challenge of saving your own lives. There will be plenty of time to suing the crap out of someone later, if you live. Your first priority is just that, saving your life: But what if someone amongst the current survivors is just a bad apple. I know it’s shocking to think of, but there are just some people that are a pain in the ass – plain and simple.

They will have little if anything to add to the general welfare of the group, and in fact will do their best to disrupt anything discussed as being a waste of time, resources, and effort.

This is just their attitude to life.

Pessimists of this caliber are plentiful. The blame for most of their life’s ills are of someone else’s doing; very rarely do they take responsibility for themselves or their actions. This event will be no exception.

 

 

 Standing firm will be tough for you

 

Teaching self reliance can never start too early...and the outdoors is one big jungle gym!

Teaching self reliance can never start too early...and the outdoors is one big jungle gym!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And this is what we will continue to look at over the next few days – why you must stand tall and sometimes stand alone, and why that might not be so bad after all….

 

We will also look at rules three, four, and five, over the next few days and as always, I welcome your comments, emails and suggestions!

 

Cheers, Terry.

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Mentally tough!

Concluding our look into mental toughness.  I thought a few examples would speak volumes in regards to what mentally tough is all about, and give us all a few reasons to wonder, “Would I be that tough?” 

Below is information about Officer Stacy Lim, a Police Officer with the LA Police department, as posted on the LA Police website - follow the link to view other incredible acts of bravery and toughness by LA Police Officers.

(I first read about Officer Stacy Lim in Lt. Col. Dave Grossmans’ and Loren W. Christensens’ book On Combat – You can find out more information about the two by following this link )

After a softball game and a stop-over at the Northeast Station to check her work assignment, Officer Stacy Lim arrived home in Canyon Country at about 1 a.m., Saturday, June 9, 1990. She didn’t know that the car behind her had followed her from Los Angeles, or that it carried four hardcore gang members, intent on stealing her truck. One of the young bandits was armed with a .357-Magnum revolver. Now, because she believed that she had been followed for some unknown reason, she carried her 9-millimeter service weapon in her hand. When she saw the large pistol in the hand of the advancing figure, she was ready to defend herself.

Officer Lim did a humane thing – instead of immediately firing at the shadowy figure with a gun, she purposely advised him that she was a police officer. From a distance of about 5 feet, the young gunman, without warning, responded to Officer Lim’s unselfish act by firing his weapon directly into her chest. The bullet struck her with an impact equal to being hit by an 18-wheeled truck doing 60 miles-an-hour. The bullet ravaged her upper body when it nicked the lower portion of her heart, damaged her liver, destroyed her spleen, and exited through the center of her back, still with enough energy to penetrate her vehicle door, where it was later found. Critically wounded, the officer brought up her weapon and fired one round which struck her assailant. He then turned and ran, but the officer followed him and fired three more rounds, which hit and fatally wounded the gunman. He had fired all six of his bullets at Officer Lim, who now returned to the front of her vehicle to fight off any further attackers, unaware that the others had driven away in panic. They were all taken into custody the same day.

Now realizing her danger from her massive wound, she tried to reach her doorway, but collapsed. Her roommates, alerted by the shooting, found her and called for medical aid. The officer had already lost so much blood, that that alone made her condition critical.

Police and Medical personnel at the scene estimated that she had no chance for recovery, and doctors at the hospital gave her only an hour to live. Her family was summoned.

However, she refused to die and survived three full cardiac arrests. By responding to a 90-minute heart massage, she showed her will to live. Her sense of duty and personal courage were equaled only by her reverence for the life of another, because she had placed herself at dire risk by giving a warning to an armed attacker. She had given him an opportunity to surrender and live. Her action upheld the highest traditions of the Los Angeles Police Department and is hereby recognized by awarding her with the Medal of Valor.

 

 

What isn’t mentioned here, is the fact that she received in the region of 100 units of blood, during her life saving surgical procedure! She credits her ability to not only stay in the fight initially, after being shot, but in living after the fight with her mental conditioning: “You need to prepare your mind, for where the body may have to go.”

In other words, toughen your mind up first, and your body will follow suit!  I love this!!

 

Or how about this guy, Charles “Commando” Kelly – another recipient of the Medal Of Honor.

For conspicuous gallantry and intrepidity at risk of life above and beyond the call of duty. On 13 September 1943, near Altavilla, Italy, Cpl. Kelly voluntarily joined a patrol which located and neutralized enemy   positions.

After this hazardous duty he volunteered to establish contact with a battalion of U.S. infantry which was believed to be located on Hill 315, a mile distant. He traveled over a route commanded by enemy observation and under sniper, mortar, and artilleryfire; and later he returned with the correct information that the enemy occupied Hill 315 in organized positions.

 Immediately thereafter Cpl. Kelly, again a volunteer patrol member, assisted materially in the destruction of 2 enemy machinegun nests under conditions requiring great skill and courage.

Having effectively fired his weapon until all the ammunition was exhausted, he secured permission to obtain more at an ammunition dump. Arriving at the dump, which was located near a storehouse on the extreme flank of his regiment’s position, Cpl. Kelly found that the Germans were attacking ferociously at this point. He obtained his ammunition and was given the mission of protecting the rear of the storehouse. He held his position throughout the night.

The following morning the enemy attack was resumed. Cpl. Kelly took a position at an open window of the storehouse. One machine gunner had been killed at this position and several other soldiers wounded. Cpl. Kelly delivered continuous aimed and effective fire upon the enemy with his automatic rifle until the weapon locked from overheating.

Finding another automatic rifle, he again directed effective fire upon the enemy until this weapon also locked. At this critical point, with the enemy threatening to overrun the position, Cpl. Kelly picked up 60mm. mortar shells, pulled the safety pins, and used the shells as grenades, killing at least 5 of the enemy.

When it became imperative that the house be evacuated, Cpl. Kelly, despite his sergeant’s injunctions, volunteered to hold the position until the remainder of the detachment could withdraw. As the detachment moved out, Cpl. Kelly was observed deliberately loading and firing a rocket launcher from the window. He was successful in covering the withdrawal of the unit, and later in joining his own organization. Cpl. Kelly’s fighting determination and intrepidity in battle exemplify the highest traditions of the U.S. Armed Forces.

After receiving the Medal, Kelly toured the country with a group of other infantrymen as part of the Army Ground Forces’ “Here’s Your Infantry,” demonstrating various battle techniques and selling war bonds. When the tour ended, Kelly was assigned to the Infantry School at Fort Benning, Georgia. Kelly received an honorable discharge from the Army in 1945, and the rank of technical sergeant.[2]

 

 

I first read about Steven Callahan in Laurence Gonzales book, Deep Survival – follow the link for more information about this great book too. 

This guy survived 76 days alone in a small rubber dinghy and exhibited the mother of all mental toughness by perpetually talking himself into not panicking. His book, “Adrift” is an excellent look into the human spirit, resourcefulness and tenacity, and is well worth a read - follow the link to find out more about his story, too. 

 

I read somewhere that rescue from a true survival situation should be viewed as a welcome interruption to your survival journey, nothing more.

For me the biggest part of being mentally tough is about not expecting your day to end without a survival disaster, or attack, or some other type of calamity!

Why?

Because when you expect your day to be dandy, everyday, day in and day out, and suddenly it’s not, you take too long to respond. The shock of the event is enough to stun you into inaction. Mentally preparing yourself for a few survival contingencies, however unlikely you feel they may be, means also preparing a sort of loose, “what if” action plan in reaction to the new reality. Nobody wants to be caught in a life and death struggle, but you’ll stand a much greater chance of coming out on top of it, if you have at least considered some options before hand.

Mental toughness begins with mental preparation. This morphs into faster reaction times should the worst occur. Which means, at very least, you won’t die with a dumb look of shock on your face….and once you have seriously considered a few survival variables, a few get out of this quick plans, or a few, “if this were to happen to me right now I’d do_________ and take action” – then you have unwittingly begun toughening up your body, too.

This mental toughening up process is part of what Lt. Col. Dave Grossman calls, “training yourself to live, not training yourself to die!”  And how much simpler can it get than that???

So that, mates, is how I’m going to categorise mental toughness:

Training yourself, mentally and physically, to live, and not die, should you find yourself in the worst of circumstance.

Some will say, “but of course I don’t want to die, who does?” And I would reply,

After dinner and keynote speaker“Your ignorance of the possibility that something bad might happen to you at any time is training yourself to die. Depending on where you live, your occupation, or recreational habits, all manner of perfectly plausible possibilities of misfortune are never more than a few seconds away: research what’s most likely to happen to you based on a small amount of research and use the information to mentally prepare for those scenarios. Mental toughness is a by product of your consideration of what might befall you at any given moment, and then having already programmed yourself not to succumb: No matter what.”

Go on, save a life, get mentally tough – the life you save could well be your own….

 

Cheers, Terry

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The week from Hell!

Actually mates,  it hasn’t been a bad week – but by God it’s been busy!! I have been going like the clappers for this whole week and seem to be perpetually one step behind, time wise, every step of the way. If only we could find a way to clone ourselves and then double the hours in the day, maybe, and this is a huge maybe, we would be able to fit everything in we need to accomplish…

But even then, I doubt it!

More hours in the day would be like having more money…no matter how much you make, you always seem to need slightly more than you actually have…LOLCooling things down before the big night...

 

In the interests of keeping things up-beat, (even though I have fallen disgracefully behind this week with the Blog trying to fit everything else in around it) I am going to put on hold the last portion of my Mentally Tough ponderings until next week and look for some humor to grace today’s Blog and keep the “happy” Friday theme in good standing…

 

Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes – there is too much fraternizing with the enemy… And so it begins:

 

“What do electric trains and breasts have in common? They’re intended for children, but it’s the men who usually end up playing with them…”

“What’s a man’s idea of foreplay? Half an hour of begging next to the bed.”

“What’s the difference between men and government bonds? Bonds mature….”

“How many men does it take to change a roll of toilet paper? Nobody knows, it’s never happened…”

“How are men like parking spots? The good ones are always taken and the only ones left are handicapped…”

“Why do men become smarter during sex? Because they are plugged into a genius!”

“Why don’t women blink during foreplay? They don’t have time…”

 

And to keep it even…..

 

“Why don’t women pass as much gas as men? Because they won’t shut up long enough to build up any pressure…”

“How many men does it take to open a beer? None. It should be open by the time she brings it…”

“What’s worse than a male chauvinist? A woman that won’t do what she’s told…”

“How do you make a one armed women fall out of a tree? Wave to her…”

“What do women and cow patties have in common? The older they get, the easier they are to pick up..”

“Why can’t women have more than a ten minute lunch break? Because otherwise you’ll have to retrain them.”

 

...Platoon 2...it's not quite living up to the hype...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

OK – here’s a link to some alternative Motivational Posters, but I have to tell you, some of them will make you cringe, gasp, and then possibly gag – don’t say you weren’t warned! Hahahaha…. Gag worthy horribilus posters…

 

This is for all those of you that have to suffer a variety of Hotels when traveling for work – at least you weren’t staying in any of these!!

 

I have prayed and prayed, and finally my superhero xray vision has started to work again.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This link is also not for the squeamish! It’s a link to a list, pictures an all, of ten of the worlds worst jobs…

 

“A man is sitting in the VIP airport lounge en route to another city, waiting on a client to land for a very important meeting. While waiting he notices Bill Gates in the same lounge sipping a glass of wine. Being extremely forward he wanders over and introduces himself to Bill. He explains to Mr. Gates that he is about to have a very important meeting with a client.  He goes on to say that if it goes well, it could be a career altering event, and that he would really appreciate it if during the meeting Bill would wander by and say,

“Hi Paul, how you doing? Thanks again for your help last month with that issue I was having.”

Bill smiles and politely agrees to play along.

A few minutes later the enterprising fellow is chatting with his client and the meeting is going well. Bill wanders casually by and remarks,

“Oh, hi Paul – great to see you again. Thanks for your help with that thing last month…”

Paul cuts him off, “Piss off Bill, can’t you see I’m in a meeting…”

 

Can you hear me now??

 

 

 

 

 

This site is really quite a laugh – visit the site for more optical illusions!

 

A salesman is driving towards home through Arizona when he spots a Navajo man hitchhiking along the road. He’s tired and bored, so he stops to pick the man up. After a little small talk, the salesman notices the Indian looking at the brown paperbag between his legs on the floor.

“If you’re wondering what’s in the bag, ” he explains, “It’ a bottle of wine. I got it for my wife.”

The Navajo man nods and smiles knowingly before replying,

“Sounds like a good trade.”

 

 

I'm still not seeing anything that compares with our storm of 2010...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

She had turned the place upside down trying to hit that house fly and he still got away

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Cheers, Terry

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Karaoke anyone?? It will help your decision making under pressure….

Developing mental toughness and staying cool under pressure.

 

Today we are going to start with the last part first, before going onto the first part last, beginning tomorrow… You following me? Hahaha! :-) No matter what she did, she just couldn't get the finger puppets to talk to each other...

 

Does being mentally tough just come down to genes?

Is it just a case of you are whatever yo’ momma gave ya, and that’s it?

 

I don’t think so!

 

I want you to imagine a simple scenario: You are out on the town with a group of friends and the first place you guys happen to stop in has a Karaoke machine.

You aren’t drunk yet, not by a long shot! Do you go up and start singing??

You should: But not immediately. First you should sit for at least 15 minutes contemplating going on stage and singing. I want you to think about which song you’ll perform. I want you to think about all those people watching you up there alone, most of them are drunk, and there might even be some heckling after you get going.

 

They might hate your singing ability!

But you should go up any way, and today’s Blog is about why…

 

For years it was thought that our brains couldn’t develop more “mass” once we left childhood behind. The latest research has blown that theory well out of the water and this is good news.

 

When it comes to making decisions under pressure, you can train yourself to make a choice quicker, by keeping your new life experiences quota up.

 

Why? Because more life experiences, particularly exhilarating or frightening ones, help our brain mapping, and neuroplasticity occurs…. New experiences mean faster cognitive abilities when circumstances demand it.

 

...and I'm sure you'll look just like her when you get up and sing...Going up on stage to sing Karaoke, sober, would qualify as a new and exhilarating experience for most of us, and this is a good thing. For most of us public speaking, or even better, sober public singing, would be cause for great amounts of panicking.

 The brain loves new challenges and revels in the chance to improve its own efficiency. It will lay down a new marker within itself and then, the next time you are forced to make a decision quickly, under pressure, it can run straight to the “marker” or file cabinet labeled, “Holy shit, I need to make a decision” – and do so faster than it did before.

It adapts faster to new and unexpected stimuli because it has new, “pathways” on which to travel.

 

We make decisions primarily based upon the totality of our own life experiences, the more varied and plentiful these are, the better we are equipped to handle unusual circumstances, threats, or scary encounters.

 

When we become complacent about life, or mentally sedentary, our brain starts going into cruise mode. Everything is pretty much, “normal” until suddenly it isn’t.

Then your brain effectively does a shoulder shrug and asks what the hell do you want from me? I’m not equipped to handle this; resulting in a freeze and a dumb looking facial expression.

 

This is exactly what happened to the doctor that attempted to intervene during that poor girls’ traffic accident I described last week. Theoretically he had the medical knowledge needed to help me with the incident. Unfortunately he lacked the stressful life experiences to keep him calm when it happened. He had no new, recent, mind mapped “flags” for his brain to fall back onto. His brain had to go way back to med school, or maybe even further back than that, for his brain to have a reference point from which to start the decision making process.

Basically he was out of practice when it came to doing things, “on the fly”. His capacity to improvise and remain calm in the face of all that stress was severely lacking. He may have been a Podiatrist for all I know. Or possibly when he yelled I’m a Doctor he failed to mention the whole story and he was a Doctor of Philosophy. Who knows!

 

I know that if a Dr. from one of the local E.R.s had of shown up, there wouldn’t have been any delay getting down to brass tacks. Even a nurse, or a cop, or a fireman, or Tiger Woods P.R. person, would have remained calmer than this guy!

 

My life, however, at that time was far from calm. I was still serving in the Commandos: An environment that prided itself on developing men that could stay calm under pressure.

 

After all, what good would you be running around firing blindly in all directions the first time things got a bit dicey?  

 

...it's just so hard to talk to you, when you are in one of your moods...We were placed into deliberately stressful situations and made to think clearly…at least most of the time. There were always going to be moments when running around like a chicken with its head cut off would seem like a good choice, given all of the options…LOL.

 

So, in an age when doing anything, “risky” is viewed with varied levels of disdain, I want you to embark on a journey of adventure this coming year and you can attribute every “crazy” experience towards becoming a more effective person under pressure.

 

That covers the “decision making process” part of last week’s Blog, tomorrow we’ll take a look at the final part in this series, Mental Toughness, and whether you are or aren’t mentally tough.

 

After dinner and keynote speakerCheers! Terry

 

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More information about neuroplasticity on the following links:

http://www.headstrong.com.au/FAQ/~Q4-54/What_is_neuroplasticity

“Keeping your brain fit!” – follow the link below.

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2008/02/04/usnews/main3787019.shtml

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Friday Fiasco!

Hello mates – we will complete this weeks theme in the early part of next week and I apologize butt his weeks activities seem to have gotten the best of me and I haven’t had time to wrap up the section, “Are you mentally tough?”Until she lost her pants, the audition for the Matrix was going very well!

 

I know how much we are all desperate for something to lighten the weeks stress’, so I thought it more important to get the Friday Fiasco stuff out signifying the end of the week – for me, as well as you! Hahaha.   So here goes – enjoy!

 

A blond sits down next to a redhead in a bar. Both are having a pretty good time when the evening news comes on the TV.

The female reporter jumps in and says, “This just in. A man on the ledge of a multi-story building is threatening to jump and kill himself.”

The redhead leans over and whispers to the blond, “I’ll bet you fifty that guy’s gonna jump…”

The blond responds, “You’re on!”

They both continue watching the news to discover what will happen. Suddenly the man leaps to his death.

The blond leans over and hands her fifty dollars over to the redhead.

The redhead says, “I can’t take your money, I watched the news earlier and knew that man going to jump.”

The blond replies, “Well, I saw it too, but I’d never have thought he’d do it again…”

 

I watched this clip several times, but only because I felt sooo sorry for the girl who lost… I promise…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KyN2xzlxkCg

 

A graduate with a science degree asks, “Why does it work?”

A graduate with an engineering degree asks, “How does it work?”

A graduate with an accounting degree asks, “How much will it cost?”

A graduate with a law degree asks, “Who gave it permission t work?”

A graduate with an arts degree asks, “Would you like fries with that?”

 

This has got to be the most exciting High School football game ever, and if you listen to the commentators, you will hear that they agree. But you’ve got to watch this all the way to the end to know what the definition of heart break really is….

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZHkABO0VwCg

 

If only she had known the butterflies older brother was a cop, she'd never have sat on him...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is an interesting Blog dedicated to photoshop disasters – see if you can ping what’s wrong in some of the shots before reading his explanation!

http://photoshopdisasters.blogspot.com/

 

Her legs just went on and on....

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You know things are going to end badly when your own Momma starts giving you crap for being too big to get out of the ditch you’ve fallen into!!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F1htLuZ4dWA

 

A few funny newspaper headlines from around the world:

 

Something went wrong in jet crash, expert says…

Police begin Campaign to run down jaywalkers…

Drunk gets nine months in violin case…

Iraqi head seeks arms…

Is there a ring of debris around Uranus?

Prostitutes appeal to Pope…

Panda mating fails; veterinarian takes over….

Clinton wins on budget, but more lies ahead…

Plane too close to ground, crash probe told…

War dims hope for peace…

March planned for next August…

…taken in part from “More adult only jokes” - by Hinkler Books.

 

This was the final test before the pants could consider themselves, officially, MC Hammer pants

 

 

   

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Jim was pretty sure the one in the middle had stolen his mtn dew...     

 

 

 

 

 

 

How drunk is too drunk??A couple of great shots posted on 

http://cavemancircus.com/2010/01/23/one-too-many-drinks/ 

this was one of my favs…

 

 

 

 

Who says the men can’t enjoy wedding pictures….  http://www.divinecaroline.com/22072/78611-slideshow–hilarious-wedding-photo-contest#9

 

...her momma would be so proud...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hopefully this’ll be a weekend just like that for you and your friends can post the shots for us all to see next Friday!!! LOL..

 

Have a great weekend mates, 

 

Cheers!  Terry. 

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