Friday Fiasco – some funny, some painful, all light hearted relief before the weekend.

I thought it might be fun to list a few amusing video links for today, as well as some that just make you scratch your head and wonder. A brief synopsis follows each link so you have an idea about what you’re opening and whether to turn the volume up or down….

http://www.break.com/index/how-to-report-the-news.html typically sarcastic English humor and it includes cursing, so make sure your kids or boss aren’t within earshot.

http://www.break.com/index/dog-poops-during-live-news-segment.html you can’t understand a word the news reporters are saying, but I don’t think you’ll need too…..

http://www.break.com/cute-girls/pogostick-girls.html not sure what type of insurance these girls are trying to sell, or in which country it was aired, but I’m thinking about changing my policy..

http://www.break.com/horror/horror-music-video.html I’m a horror movie nut and it was fun trying to guess which movie these clips are from.

http://www.break.com/horror/bedfellows—short-film.html – this one isn’t funny, turn your volume up and see if it makes you jump..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GoCqvnJFUUA&feature=rec-r2-2r-3-HM there’s no sound for this compilation of clips, but some of these really look like they hurt, so it’s worth a watch.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SXsK5wyh3tA&feature=related some of these pictures are amazing. You’ve got to wonder WTH some of these folks were thinking to get into this kind of mess!

 

Really enjoying her singing

 

What he REALLY MEANS….

“That’s women’s work!” Really Means – It’s dirty, difficult and thankless, and I don’t want to do it.

“Can I help with dinner?”  Really Means – Why isn’t it already on the table?

“It would take too long to explain..” Really Means – I have no freaking clue how this works but I’m not admitting that to you.

“We’re going to be late because of you!” Really Means – Now I have a legitimate reason for driving like an asshole, testing the very limits of my car and reflexes, and I expect no screaming or drama from you.

 

Road Trip - Car Broke Down

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

and you thought your life sucked…

 Taken from the incredibly funny Book F My Life by Maime Valette, Guillaume Passaglia, and Didier Guedj .

“Today I was volunteering at a nursing home, and I was calling bingo numbers. A woman suddenly stood up and started making noises. I assumed she had won, and began clapping. She fell on the floor and died of a heart attack. I applauded her death…”

“Today my Father asked me if he could borrow my electric razor because he wanted to surprise Mum later. Anxious to see him without his lifelong beard, I willingly agreed. Half an hour later he exited the bathroom, beard fully intact…”

“Today I was getting my teeth cleaned at the dentists office. Looking up at his nose, I saw runny snot dripping onto his lip. I tried to slowly move away. “STOP!” He ordered me. The movement of his lips cause the snot to fall right into my open mouth….”

“Today, while I was working, my ex-girlfriend came in to apply for a job. She had broken up with me for another guy, so I can’t stand to be in the same room with her. The manager hired her on the spot. I have to train her…”

 

Pearls of wisdom:

Don’t do for others what, given the chance, they wouldn’t do for themselves.

An expert is someone called in at the last minute to share the blame.

A retired husband is a wife’s full time job.

Even at a mensa convention, someone is the dumbest person in the room

 

One last joke:

The old man was critically ill. Feeling that death was near he caled for his lawyer.

“I want to become a Democrat. Get me change of registration form.”

Slightly surprised the lawyer asked him,

“But why? You’ll be dead soon, so why change now?” 

“That’s my business young man, just make it happen!”

A few days later the registration had been filed and the old man was now indeed a Democrat. The lawyer was once again at the old mans side as he closed in on death.

Suddenly the old man began coughing and gasping for air and it was obvious he was close to the end. Curiousity go the better of the lawyer and he attempted to once again get an answer to his question,

“Please, you are so close to death, tell me why you changed your affiliation?”

The old man took a deep raspy final breath and in a feint whisper replied,

“… now… there’s.. one less.. Democrat…”

Keynote and motivational speakerCheers, Terry

 

P.S. Instead of writing a famous “quote” today, as I do for most days, I wanted to draw your attention to something that occurred earlier this week – you might not have even heard anything about it on the news, which is why I deemed it essential to make mention of it myself. If, after reading the article it strikes a chord with you, please cut and paste the story and email to your friends – these men should not be forgotten:

You’re a 19 year old kid.

You’re critically wounded and dying in the jungle in the Ia Drang Valley. November 11, 1965. LZ X-ray , Vietnam

Your infantry unit is outnumbered 8-1 and the enemy fire is so intense, from 100 or 200 yards away, that your own Infantry Commander has ordered the MediVac helicopters to stop coming in.

You’re lying there, listening to the enemy machine guns and you know you’re not getting out. Your family is 1/2 way around the world, 12,000 miles away, and you’ll never see them again. As the world starts to fade in and out, you know this is the day.

Then – over the machine gun noise – you faintly hear that sound of a helicopter. You look up to see an unarmed Huey. But … it doesn’t seem real because no Medi-Vac markings are on it.

Medal of Honor Recipient Ed FreemanEd Freeman is coming for you.

He’s not Medi-Vac so it’s not his job, but he’s flying his Huey down into the machine gun fire anyway. Even after the Medi-Vacs were ordered not to come. He’s coming anyway. And he drops it in and sits there in the machine gun fire, as they load 2 or 3 of you on board. Then he flies you up and out through the gunfire to the doctors and nurses.

And, he kept coming back!! 13 more times!!

He took about 30 of you and your buddies out who would never have gotten out. Medal of Honor Recipient, Ed Freeman, died last Wednesday at the age of 80, in Boise , Idaho . May God Rest His Soul. I bet you didn’t hear about this hero’s passing, but we’ve sure seen a whole bunch about Tiger Woods. . .

But nothing on the death of Medal of Honor Winner Ed Freeman.

Shame on the American media!!!

Now … YOU pass this along on YOUR mailing list.

Submitted by former Huey pilot Dick, Williamsport, Md.

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Mastering your negative emotions – part three.

 

 

POWMonday we chatted about what really constitutes as having a bad day, rather than just a frustrating day.

 

 

We’ve already established that in order to experience a genuinely bad day your life needs to have been threatened.

 

But if it was a true “life or death” situation and you’re now able to tell us about it, that means you obviously survived and are now officially back to experiencing a good day again…

Are you beginning to see how this works?

A few years ago I read something about P.O.W.’s which detailed specifically how individual character bias, either Optimist or Pessimist, impacted a person’s ability to survive captivity.

I found it surprising to discover that the optimists typically faired slightly worse than the pessimists, over time.

I would have guessed the optimists would have handled imprisonment the best, but then I’m an optimist, so I would. LOL.

They were slightly worse off, typically, because they couldn’t seem to achieve their up-beat mindset without giving in to the temptation of setting a timeline for improvements. In other words, they would say things like,

“OK, it’s bad today, but two months from now things will be so much better, because of xyz….” Or,

“I know we’ll be home and with our loved ones by Christmas, or Easter, or Thanksgiving.”

Whenever those times and dates came and went without materialization, these guys became depressed. In the beginning they would only be depressed for a few days. As optimists they would soon begin setting another time or date for release and focus all of their energy of getting through to then.

When those dates also came and went, their depression would then last for weeks. The next time it would last for months, until eventually the light in their eyes would just go out and they stopped trying.

No one can predict how they will perform under these types of conditions, either. In the cases to which I am referring, these men had been detained for many months, or even years. They had been tortured, physically, mentally and emotionally.

Who’s to say they wouldn’t have lasted as long as they did, if not for their sense of optimism.

It’s a bit like that old joke about the young man boasting to his Doctor in regards to his unhealthy lifestyle. He confidently points out that his Grandfather had lived until he was 95, while still smoking, drinking and cursing all the way to his grave!

The Doctor had quietly replied, “How long would he have lived if he hadn’t smoked and drank?”

It might be that the P.O.W.’s sense of optimism kept them alive as long as it did. They existed in the worst conditions imaginable, suffering severe malnutrition, dehydration, and degradation at the hands of their captors.

Bridge over the River KwaiNot that the pessimists faired too much better!

The slight advantage the pessimists may have had over the optimists, came in the way that the pessimists simply accepted and resigned themselves to their fate.

It was no surprise that they had been captured, it was just their luck. They certainly didn’t expect to ever see freedom again – that would be way too optimistic. They never set times/dates that would pass them by, so there was little in the way of additional psychological let downs with which they had to contend.

There was only the here and now: Nothing more, nothing less.

The trouble with this sort of reasoning is there was very little for them to live for! We need hopes and dreams and ambitions to grow and develop as people. It’s what has brought us to where we are now. Our imagination is what ignited the fire under some of the world’s greatest explorers.  It was our imagination that put people on the moon.

Without dreams, ambitions, or the determination to excel, we have little or no passion and without passion, our will to live wanes.

This is precisely what happened to the pessimists. They literally lost the will to live. Without the hope of freedom, what was the point in suffering for longer than necessary?

They were never going to get home anyway. And even if they did, the general public would hate them, spit on them and cast insults upon them – right?

You can begin to see why a pessimistic attitude would be detrimental, too.

So what is the right balance? How did those that survived achieve it? How did they learn to control their emotions long enough to make it through such a spirit crippling existence?

And how that can help YOU begin making the most of your frustrating days, rather than becoming emotionally entwined in an on-going negative belief system?

 

After dinner and keynote speakerTomorrow we will wrap this segment by looking at definitive ways you can capitalize on these lessons and begin making changes within yourself, which will impact your life for the better.

 

Cheers, Terry.

P.S. “No man is fit to command another that cannot command himself.” – William Penn

 

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The girl from Pixar: Part two

Are you lacking resources, resourcefulness, or just imagination – and why it’s so important to love your job!

Hello again mates, happy Tuesday.

In addition to needing to love your job, here’s another stunning peace of information: You most likely do not want to die… There, I said it, you can now go on with your day. :-)

key to successWhy are these two bits of information important and intrinsically linked? Because both of these desires, or emotions, are powerful players on the road to resourcefulness. You cannot expect the best of yourself when your emotions are not at play. Both our personal and professional routines typically lend themselves to creating the most dull, boring, unfulfilling sense of existence possible: And it sucks!

This hum-drum existence is why movies, books, or any other medium containing heroic exploits have become such money makers for production companies.  Have a look at this article on Psychology Today’s website.

The girl from Pixar did not have this problem. Over half of her day was fantasy… At least from the outside looking in, that is.

Of course the reality was, it was also a “job”. The difference lay in the fact that she loved her job. Aside from the prospect of dying, which other emotion is more likely to illicit such a high degree of motivation? We will move mountains for love. We will conversely climb, hack, build, improvise, fight or destroy ”mountains” in order to live: Nothing would deter us from achieving that goal, as long as there wasn’t an easy alternative just a phone call away….

I read about a group of fit, healthy, supposedly smart male friends who set out onto a hike into one of the National Parks. After a few hours of hiking they became disoriented, and then lost. Apparently hopelessly so. So lost in fact, that as dark descended they made an emergency call to Park Rangers, pleading for rescue. Which of course the Rangers responded to. Upon finding the men huddled together the Rangers took inventory of what the men carried in their back-packs. Everything they would need to survive was in there, including a GPS gizmo they hadn’t even attempted to turn on and utilize….

When the Rangers got a little irritated with the men for their lack of responsibility, the men simply replied, “But, it’s your job to rescue us!”

I will admit, I would have been hard pressed not to just leave the group there, after, of course, I’d taken away all of their equipment. I would just title my actions, “promoting Darwins Natural selection theory” or something like it, and left them to fend for themselves.

Of course most of us are not so cavalier about our safety and would take responsibility for it; right? Yeah, just like we take responsibility for our happiness??

One of the reasons we have become so quick not to explore all the variables to any given situation is technology. Nearly everything we could possible need is but a mouse-click away. We have the capacity to exploit more information, more tools, more everything, than any generation before us, and it’s making us complacent. Just like the “lost” hikers with the ability to make a cell phone call and, at much trouble to others, get themselves out of a perceived predicament. 

What would they have done without the cell phone? Would they have gone to the trouble of turning on their GPS… Now there’s some irony! If the technology wasn’t there for a cell phone call, it’s sure as heck not going to allow for GPS triangulation on their position. Oops. So now you have to ask, would they have ventured out at all? Probably not. That would of called for more planning and self sufficiency.

When we go to work and get hit with a problem with no apparent answer, what do we do? Well, some of it depends on your profession. But in most cases  it will play out something like this: I’m not sure how to do what I’ve been asked to do – let me go Google the hell out of the subject and see if someone else has discovered the answer.

Now I’m not critical of this process; I do more than my fair share of searches looking for answers to problems. But if I couldn’t find what I was looking for there, would that be the end of my search? NO! I’d get off my ass and go to the library and start my search again there. Let’s imagine for a second there was no answer there either… Just like our Pixar friend – no one has done what you need to do. Now what? There’s no rule book, no self help guides, no way to solve your professional problems with A Dummies Guide to ______________ .

No, there’s just you and the team of folks around you to work it out!

bear on a hill watching meToo often we say that can’t be done and if there isn’t anything to help us figure it out quickly and easily, we move one. Everyone accepts that it “can’t be done” and we seek other means. This is not much more than a lack of resourcefulness, or in military jargon, GPA (good positive attitude).

My Pixar friend told me that some of the issues they had to resolve might take them weeks, probably months, and that was before they started actually putting the “creative” elements down on paper, so-to-speak. Answer this: Would you spend weeks resolving issues that your boss ordered you to? Nah, probably not… What’s that? You already do… 

It’s not the same thing. When ordered to do anything, we bristle. You can’t help it, it’s human nature. What you need is a bristle free environment. No orders are needed because your love for your job creates it’s own sense of urgency and pride. And how do we achieve this heavenly state?

Fantastic Leadership of course!! Not top down leadership, or bottom up leadership, nor middle out leadership, how about this:

Human Nature Based Leadership! Oh come-on, we can do it…

What does this mean? Partly it means killing the old adage that work must suck. (this link is to an interesting book by Cali Ressler & Jody Thompson all about how to change this situation)

No, work must not suckA work place thatstill follows the, “this is work and thus it must be aweful” philosophy is a recipe for disaster, especially right now. 

What are the top three rules at yourcompany (and I want you to consider this whether you are an emplyee or the “boss” that has to enforce it). Just give me the first three that pop to mind. Here are my best guesses for the top three:

1  Get there on time, punch in, and certainly never leave early!

2  Dress Code – a huge deal for a lot of reasons, I know.

3  Having fun and really enjoying that plush corner office you have…

What’s that? You have a problem with number three… Why?Isn’t this of paramount importance in your work place? Probably not, but it should be.

In fact imagine this, your first day on the job you are handed the Employee workbook and told to review it, paying special attention to the first ten Rules, as these are none negotiable and conformity is mandatory. The tone of delivery is a littel scary because you’d hard this was a great place to work, and even during the interview your boss seemed so relaxed and happy.

What the hell happened?

Now you’re getting scared! You knew deep down it was too good to be true, and here’s the proof… You fell for it. Codswallop!!! (I’m sure this one’s in your current vocabulary of swear words). LOL.

Your boss grants you 15 mins in the staff room alone in order for you to review these hard and fast rules. Your stomach sinks as the door closes behind you and there’s nothing but the sound of that wall clock ticking to keep you company. You slump into a chair and begin wishing you could turn back the clock….what was the name of that other company hiring..? The one your other friend said you’d better check them out first…. Too late now.

You open the handout, and begin to read…

Rule # 1: You are now personally responsible for the happiness of your team and you will strive to make their lives as much fun as possible – this you swear (initial here_____)

Rule # 2: Teambuilding isn’t a one day event, it’s a culture developed by the employees and management that must be tendered and nursed to maximum health everyday – with this you completely agree and will support wholeheartedly (initial here______)

Rule # 3: All complaints must go through your team before being brought to management, then the whole team must present these issues. In conjunction with this the team will need to support their complaints with a way to remedy them, and list three things they love about the company, too (initial here_________)

…and on and on it goes for the ten rules that must be adhered to. Now you have no idea what to think. Is this for real? Is this a joke?

You hear your name called from outside the employee room door and exit quickly not sure what’s going on! SURPRISE!!!!!!

The whole staff is waiting to greet you, balloons, twizzlers, streamers, handshakes, welcome aboard, can you believe the Ten Rules for working here, you’re gonna love it here, this place rocks, we’ve set the company record for performance, sales, employee retention, no one leaves, if you need time for stuff just take it – as long as you get your work done, no worries….. And on it goes. You’ve never been so warmly greeted, anywhere, EVER. Did I mention, you’re not a manager, you’re the mail girl/guy.

It’s not a joke – It’s a culture!

Take Pixar woman for example, one of things she mentioned more than a couple of times was the culture. No one really gave a crap about what you looked like (dress code) or what time they got to work (as long as progress was being made).

She didn’t mention it, but I know she would have if she’d read my Blog, she said nothing about bristling… No employee bristling can only mean one thing – happy employees! (as another example I implore you to take a look at the rest of the Zappos.com  ”about us” website and try to discover the underlying culture within that company too)

Which is where the common thread that links all of this together starts to come into play. I mentioned yesterday that life, hobbies, work, even disaster survival is all linked by a common theme – that theme is Desire.

When you are in a life or death situation, you desire to live. If you have no equipment, no experience and it seems like no hope, your desire to stay alive will make you a freaking genius in the moment. You will improvise, adapt, and ultimately overcome; or you will die. You will not just sit on a rock and curl up in the fetal position waiting for someone to help you out, because if you do, you will die. You will see past the fact that you can’t just Google your way out of the situation, or make a phone call to be “rescued”. You’ll figure it out – all by yourself, because circumstances dictate that you must.

Your desire to live will do the rest!

If you love your job and where you work, because the culture is “we don’t care what you look like, what time you get to work, or why you’re leaving early today” then the goal becomes developing the best product or service possible. You spend less time Bristling, and more time pumped up about what you do, unrestricted by petty rules. You know if you get the job done and the results are mind-blowing, you’ll experience a sense of accomplishment not felt since grade school.

Just like survival is the point of figuring out the best way to deal with your disaster situation, your desire to improve the product or service at work will grow exponentially.

This is a culture thing, not necessarily an employee thing. And it’s most definately a leadership thing – so if you aren’t the boss, start thinking about ways to steer your boss in this direction. Or at least send them the link to this Blog and I’ll try starting to steer them. In the end, we should all want the same thing, the best of ourselves so that we can enjoy what it is we do and feel happy about doing it.

P.S. “Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant.” – Horace

Cheers, Terry

 

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Mastering your fear of public speaking! Part two.

G’day mates!

I have given talks during which all of the following have happened:

A man answered a cell phone call during the speech – he left the room only after the rest of the audience glared at him hard enough that there was no way for him to stay…

Emails have been typed – both on cell phones and laptops..

A guy in the front row fell asleep. Not just nodded off for a few, I’m talking about a bloke needing to be prodded awake to stifle his snoring by the woman next to him.

For today’s purposes I’m only going to chat about the last two; I will not discuss the guy who took the phone call, he was just damned rude, and I’m still pretending he doesn’t exist…

The fact is, anyone that gets up in front of an audience to give a presentation, would like to think what they are delivering is worth their audiences time and attention. And in most cases, if you’ve done your homework on your audience, you’ll be right – they are interested and very guarded about wasting their own time and they intend to make the most of your information. But, occasionally, someone will be in the middle of the worst work day of their lives and not able to cease trying to sort things out just because of your talk.

In some cases this person will have been told they must attend this “presentation” because of the quality of the information going to be delivered, and the fact they don’t have time for it, is of no consequence to the manager.

There is also the point that everyone multitasks to different degrees. Some people can quiet comfortably handle listening to you, and getting some of their more mundane chores settled while they do. In fact some people listen better while doing busy work, doodling, or headstands at the back of the room.

One of the women I witnessed texting or emailing during my presentation approached me at the end to ask a couple of follow up questions. She also mentioned in passing that she had sent my information onto a professional contact of hers during the talk, because she like the session so much she was sure so would her acquaintance. I was quite surprised to be honest, because I hadn’t considered the possibility that some might be enjoying it so much she couldn’t wait to shWoman giving a successful presentationare with others.

I always thought a lack of perceived attention was a negative thing! It’s not.

Also, bear in mind that the younger the audience, the more likely it is for this scenario to occur. I organized a Community Team Building event in the form of a dancing Flash Mob a few months ago. During one of the rehearsals we broke off for a rest after running the routine through a half dozen times. Of the fifty or so students attending the rehearsal, forty of them went straight to their cell phones during the first five seconds of the break time.

To watch this happen was comical! Half them were holding conversations with the people next to them, while typing, and sending pictures of the “event” to other friends. A few years ago if I was having a conversation with someone and they suddenly broke off to start texting or emailing, I would have had a hard time not thumping them on the top of their ignorant head. One of the biggest generational differences lays in our children’s ability to instantly connect with each other.

In this case pictures were being taken, sent embedded within texts and then short blasts of highly abbreviated information was being relayed to FaceBook, Twitter, MySpace or a plethora of other social networks. I asked one student if she was emailing good or bad reports about the rehearsal. She laughed at me and replied,

“No one emails any more, it takes too long. And I was telling my closest ten friends how funny you are – so it’s good news.” HOLY CRAP! Emails take too long!!!!! I was caught somewhere between being happy I wasn’t just the old guy at the front making a fool of himself (not that I really care) and nearly shocked into sitting down that emails could be perceived as outdated and “old school”.

I remember a time when writing a letter to my wife meant licking a small square of nasty sticky paper and then having to find time to drive to a postbox, (mailbox) mail it, hope it didn’t get lost, wait a week to ten days, call and make sure it got there. And then wait another ten days for my reply….and that’s if everything went to plan!!

Here was a 16 year old telling me that email was an old school concept and took too long.

Which brings me to this final point on the topic, no matter who you are presenting to, if folks suddenly start texting (no emails now remember they are passe) during your speech it may well be that they were so inspired by your talk, they couldn’t wait to share with their friends. If you are dying a death out there, and they suddenly start texting, the whole world will know you sucked before you finish.

You might as well focus on the positive as there isn’t much you can do either way. LOL 

 Someone is always going to look bored out of their mind – no matter what you do.

This can affect your confidence during your speech and make you start to doubt what you are saying is of any interest to your audience at all. We tend to focus our attention on the members of the audience who seem to be most engaged; those that nod, smile back at us, or fix us with unwavering focus. Now, by all means enjoy these accolades, they will inspried you be the best presenter possible. But, do not ignore the importance of making eye contact with everyone in the room – including the grumpy old sod seemingly hell bent on making you feel like an idiot.

The gentleman I mentioned earlier that fell asleep during one of my talks and began snoring, nearly, nearly threw me for a loop. The rest of the audience seemingly was having a great time. As I had been hired to talk about survival, humor, optimism, attitude and the ability to see the bright side of everything, this could have been very unfortunate if I’d reacted negatively! Of course, neither could I just ignore it: so asked to borrow someones jacket and I covered this guys legs with it, while he slept. This tickled the rest of the group, and we let him sleep off the next twenty minutes without bothering him.

It turns out he had taken a red eye from the other side of the country to make the presentation and it wouldn’t have mattered if I was juggling balls of fire that day, he was jet-lagged, beat up from five days of travel and meetings and couldn’t keep his eyes open. After the speech concluded, he informed me that he had enjoyed what he’d been awake for enough that he was referring me to another company. I can live with that.

The grumpy guy, the guy barely awake, (or even snoring) are not doing it deliberately. Some people just look like they consistently get up on the wrong side of their bed. Do not ignore them because they make you feel uncomfortable. Handle them as if they are the difference between your presentations success or failure.

Often times, the grumpy looking bugger, also happens to be the decision maker for the company. He has a lot riding on his or her shoulders, and although they may not be giving you the instant afffirmation others in the crowd are doing, they will undoubtedly derive negative emotions from being ignored. 

That’s it for today mates, I’ll wrap up this section tomorrow, in the meantime have a top-notch day and we’ll chat again soon!

Cheers, Terry.

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The difference is an inch…

Of course I’m talking about your posture, so you can get your mind out of the gutter now! :-)

The difference between being a procrastinator and an actual “doer of deeds” is an inch – at least in body language terms anyway. Most folks at this time of year half heartedly scribble down some changes they’d like to make to their lives for the coming year; ironically enough, those that have scribbled down some notes are the motivated ones… Those that couldn’t find the time to do even that, usually will have forgotten their own notions within two weeks.

How sad is that?

So, I suppose everything must start with you asking yourself whether you really want to change anything, or not. If you really feel like making some improvements to your life, then you have got to change your personal “programming”.

The next couple of Blogs are going to be in regards to how you use your body to reinforce the “programming” you’ll be performing on your noggin. Nothing happens without updating the files in your head, and the chances of succeeding are linked directly to your ability to whole-heartedly commit to the new “files”.

I taught kick-boxing for more than 15 years. One thing that always surprised my students was the amount of repetition needed before their body would react the way it was supposed to when facing an attack. Combinations could take weeks to master, or sometimes months. 

I have spoken to a large amount of women’s groups about self defence, and more importantly their ability to stay ahead of the threat by improving their situational awareness. If it’s possible, and in most cases it is, you should avoid having to physically defend yourself at all costs, hopefully by avoiding being in that position in the first place.

Fights never go the way you expect them too and someone always gets hurt. In most cases it is the one least prepared for the confrontation in the first place; which is typically the victim. Your attacker has had ample time to mentally prepare for the event, simply because he’s been “planning” the event. You may have mere seconds to react and save your own life.

Most people spend these valuable few moments frozen in shock, trying to figure out why this is even happening to them.  

Here are some simple rules to follow whenever you are out and about:

Pay attention. This sounds like an easy one doesn’t it? Unfortunately, it’s easier said than done. Between our cell-phones and ridiculously busy schedules, we spend less than half our time paying attention to the present and, too much time figuring out how we are going to juggle everything we have to do that day. We have little time to consider we are being watched, or appraised, as a “easy” target for some robber, or rapist. Just because you are a hard working busy individual doesn’t mean everyone else is – remember, ”Idle hands are the Devils workshop.”

Always carry a whistle. (1) A simple and effective way of avoiding confrontation is to make so much noise the assailant will run away and try and find a quieter, easier victim. Most attacks, like robberies, are crimes of opportunity. The easier the “opportunity” the better. Noisy, isn’t easy. It carries with it the chance that help will arrive (preferably in a Police uniform and carrying a gun) but it might also bring a good samaritan. This person may not be in any better position to lend physical assistance, but they are another set of eyes to help with a description for Police. A whistle cuts through the clutter of other background noise and attracts attention like nothing else. (*) 

Take responsibility for you own life. (2) I have a number of friends in Law Enforcement, and they will tell you the same thing I am now: They will get to your side ASAP upon getting the 911 call. They will risk their lives getting between you and an attacker knowing nothing about you because that is the job they have chosen to do. You will not have to fill out a questionnaire upon their arrival validating your usefulness on Earth before they will intervene. They will jump on your attackers ass like a Spider Monkey protecting young ‘uns just as quickly as they can. But they can only travel as fast as circumstances and the environment will permit. (**) Until  then it’s up to you!!!You cannot count on bystanders coming to your aid either. We live in Scary man in the shadowslitigious times where one wrong move can get your ass sued. It’s sad, but true, people will think twice before getting involved because they might presume your attacker is just an ex-boyfriend and you probably brought this on yourself. Why should I risk my life on the chance it turns out both of you will jump me in retaliation for intervening… Taking responsibility for your own life means fighting to stay alive for as long as it takes for help to arrive. Take at least a few reality based self-defense classes and then practice what you learn on a regular basis. (We will cover firearms and Concealed Carry permits at a later date – but surprisingly enough, I am in favor of your doing so where legally allowed)

Get crazy and do it fast! Forget everything you have seen in the movies. There is no such thing as a fair fight. At least not out side of theOctagon. You better believe that your attacker doesn’t want a fair fight. He’s going to hit you as hard and violently as possible to take the fight right out of you – it will make his job easier whether he is intent on robbing you, or dragging you elsewhere. The more civilized amongst us tend to escalate our response to provication systematically: If he pushes me I will push him back. If he punches me I will punch him back….and so on, up the scale until we feel we have no other choice but to hurt him because he is hurting us. Forget that crap. Once you know it’s on, its on. Believe me you will know. Crazy is all you have at this point, so bring it. You want his eyes on the end of your thumbs. That hot coffee you’ve carried so diligently from Starbucks is now a life saver and I’m not talking about the caffiene. Throw it in his face. The pencil you carry in your top left pocket needs to be stuck as far in his ear as you can get it. Nothing is beyond consideration here. If you can hurt him with it, do so. And while you are doing whatever it is you can to leave permanent scars on this fool, make as much noise as humanely possible. It will lend you confidence during your retaliation.

Tomorrow we will cover some of the fundamentals of body position for self-defense, before continuing on and addressing ways to use your new knowledge to improve your confidence in social settings, such as networking, and even public speaking.

Cheers,

Terry

www.highintensityteambuilding.com

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